Have you recently started a new relationship and really want to make it work? Are you in between partners and want to show up differently sexually next time around? Or, are you in a committed relationship and your sex drive has taken a back seat to your career, the kids and life?

Well – look no further, there are some simple ways to put your skin back in the game (so to speak) and juice things up with your partner. After all a tantalizing sex life could be the elixir for keeping your relationship vibrant and exciting, to say nothing of bringing you a new zesty energy.

Sex it up tips:

1. Sexting is not just reserved for teenagers. There is nothing like the thrill of knowing someone wants your ass and badly. There are even apps with adult emojis that you and your lover can play and tease each other with.

2. Bring your fantasies alive! If this seems intimidating to the uninitiated – start small. Talk, talk, talk to your partner – and if not, why not write them down and share over a bottle of wine and candlelight. If you have not already, look at your body landscaping…. Ask what your partner would like to see or even help each other with the grooming…. Very intimate and sexy….

3. The power of a written note! Try leaving sexy, steamy notes for your partner. If it seems a bit of a stretch right now…. start with simple but powerful phrases of love… And, when these messages show up in unexpected places, like your briefcase, or your lunch bag or underwear drawer…. savor the love and appreciation – it is priceless…

4. Revamp your underwear drawer. There are fantastic, titillating underwear for men and women with wonderful textures, designs, that can highlight your best assets. If this is new territory for you – no worries. Buy the sexy underwear discretely by buying online and believe it or not Amazon has some pretty amazing suggestions. Whatever size you are, just own it and it is really your swag when you do that is the most alluring…

5. Fun with Toys! OMG, where do we get started? You may or may not be a dildo person, but may we say that a sex toys can be built for 2! Either your partner can use a toy like a vibrator on you … which is pure erotica…. or there are toys where both partners are using it simultaneously. The beautiful thing is, not only are you bringing in exciting variety but you are perhaps taking off some of the pressure to perform as the toys go a long way in getting the job done.