Hi Tina,

I am in a new relationship and was with my previous boyfriend for several years.  The problem is what really worked for my last boyfriend (hand jobs and blow jobs) – just doesn’t work for this guy. A penis is a penis, right? Maybe I just don’t excite him sexually?

Great question reader!

This happens to be one my favorite topics – Penis World! So, (and I know you know this) – just like every clit and vagina is different, so are our favorite male members.  And, I am not just talking about shape and size – how his prized penis responds is dependant on sooooo many things. He could be someone who loves foreplay, OR gets off on visual stimulation (did someone say sexy undies or a strip tease?) OR needs softer touch or loves stroking more than the suction of the mouth – to say nothing about the angle, OR the side you are stimulating him from……

So how could you possibly know the answers to his ideal blow or hand job scenario? Yes – of course, it is as simple as asking a few questions. Feel shy about this? If this is something new to you, it is completely understandable, but if you genuinely care for him, he will appreciate your courage and level of care (maybe even love) that you are showing by finding out about what he likes. This could just lead to a happy, climatic place…. Good luck!